R U Ok Day- 13 September, 2012

R U Ok Day, 2012

R U Ok Day, 2012

Today is R U Ok day- Australia wide

What is R U Ok Day?

 R U OK?Day is a national day of action on the second Thursday of September (dedicated to inspiring all people of all backgrounds to regularly ask each other ‘Are you ok?’

By raising awareness about the importance of connection and providing resources throughout the year, the R U OK? Foundation aims to prevent isolation by empowering people to support each other through life’s ups and downs.

I could not be more passionate about a day such as R U Ok day….I know first hand how important, powerful and life changing those three words can be.

I am an advocate for uttering those three words….

More often than not, when I ask people this questions the response is,’ I am fine’.

That makes me happy and  glad that I asked.

But every once in a while ,someone when asked, will say ‘ I am not fine’.

Then more than ever I feel happy and glad that I asked.

I am learning not to make assumptions about people’s feelings.

Asking questions is the only way to break down assumption.

Three words make this possible : ‘ R U Ok?’

R U Ok…three words that have the power to break down barriers for they provide individual with an opportunity to put a voice  their inner thoughts and feeling and more than happy to listen.

R U Ok day… a day that reminds me of my commitment to continuing to ask these three words and to listen to all responses that come as a result.

R U Ok day website: R U Ok Day

Banana Cream Pie

Friendship Fire starter: something that promotes friendship, encourages a catch up or strengthens a bond between two or more people.

Banana Cream Pie

Banana Cream Pie

When I was growing up I was fortunate enough to have not one but two best friends.

When the Lee twins moved from country NSW to the South Coast,  we hit it off, and as a result my childhood is awash of memories of the three of us at the beach, the park and the local roller skating rink. As teenagers we found casual work together in the local supermarket, embraced the Wollongong night life as young adults and when that no longer satisfied we went on numerous domestic and international holidays.

Today, as grown women we continue to catch up….to gossip, to reminisce….a chance for a briefly escape the busyness that has become our lives…we all have day jobs, one has a family of their own, we have households, gardens and pets to attend too…but we would not have it any other way!!

I recall all three of us shared a love of baking. It was common to find us in the Lee family kitchen, making mess from one end of the kitchen bench to the other…We loved to invent, to experiment…following recipes…well sometimes…It was a relaxed atmosphere, three creative spirits having a go!!

The twins and I

The twins and I

It is with fondness that I recall a dish the three of us perfected back in the early 1990’s…Banana Cream Pie.

The taste of my childhood, our collective childhoods…This recipe is best made in the company of others and then eaten soon after with the same crew.

Did we invent this recipe? It is hard to say…I don’t recall there EVER being a recipe book, and it was well before the era of the internet and Google.

Inspired by an my earlier post this week : Taste of Childhood,  I have spent a great deal of time reminiscing about the foods that shaped by early years….Banana Cream Pie surfaced again and again.

So without further ado, let me commit to text, the recipe that will always be associated with good friends, good company and the unmistakable taste of summer.

Banana Cream Pie ( or the  ‘I am such a lucky girl to have two best friends’ pie)

1 Packet of Arnotts Nice Biscuits ( any sweet plain biscuit will do)

75 g butter

2 ripe banana

2 passionfruit

300 ml Lite Thickened Cream

200g Passionfruit yogurt

Base: Smash biscuits into a crumb consistency. Melt butter. Mixed into biscuits crumb.

Place into pie dish. Press firmly with hands into base of dish. Place into refrigerator to set.

Pie filling: Mash bananas. Add passionfruit pulp. Add passionfruit yogurt and thickened cream. Stir all ingredients together.

When pie base has set (20 mins max waiting time) remove from fridge and pour filling into pie dish.

Place into freezer for up to 2 hours to set.

Serve frozen and with fresh fruit (if so desired)

Note : The does not have to be a Banana / Passionfruit cream pie…you could use any fruit that takes your fancy…Strawberries, Blueberries, Rasberries….The falvour combinations are endless.

Related post: The Taste of Childhood

Banana Cream Pie...ready to eat

Banana Cream Pie…ready to eat!

Dance like no one is watching

On Sunday the 17th of June, my friend Kate and I attended a dance class at the Sydney Dance Company : ‘ Hip Hop for Beginners’

Do something that scares you’, was a remark made over Friday night drinks

Dance does not scare me…it challenges me…challenges me to let go, be in the moment, be present, in the here and now…

Sunday came around, and Kate and I  entered studio 4, ready to get our crump on.

I took to the warm up routine with ease, stretches similar to those of a yoga class…but as dance steps, arm movements…and music were slowly introduced…I realised that

‘ Remedial Hip Hop’ would have suited me better!!

As the class progressed, I tried to loosen up, not to indulge in thoughts that were ever-present   ‘ I can’t , I can’t’ ….’ You look foolish’ …’ Everyone else has their groove on EXCEPT you’

It was an inner battle, that presented itself on the dance floor….misplaced footing, restricted movement…the more I tried, the worse it got….

YET….IT…WAS…FUN

If I was the kind of person to take it on face value alone…FUN would be the ONE thing I took from the class.

The joy of movement, of sharing an experience with a great friend, carefree laughter, shared frustration

But I took much away much more than that… ….Insight….that I too often restrict my experience, listening to an inner mantra of ‘ I can’t’

Looking back on my Sunday…when I stepped outside my  comfort zone, I remember with a smile a fleeting moment as I stared into the mirror of the dance studio,  let all thoughts evaporate and permitted myself the luxury of dancing like no one was watching for 5 seconds….

Friendship Fire Starter: Common Interests- Travel

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Nothing helps unites two people better than common interests ( CI’s) , hobbies, likes and loves.

I LOVE to travel, and it has been on my many solo trips, local, domestic and abroad, that I have met truly inspiring and creative individuals…People who have become part of my patchwork quilt of friendship that spans to globe.

Sometimes I have been lucky enough to travel with a companion…someone to take on the sites, sounds and experiences in places like Indonesia, Tropical North Queensland, Europe and Asia. Travelling with friends puts the very foundation of that relationships to the test….And I am a firm believer if you can travel together, through the good, the bad and the plain ugly..then lifelong friendship is almost a guarantee….

This will be the first of many friendship fire starts devoted to the topic of travel…It would be impossible to document the importance of one of life’s many luxuries in few hundred words, a single post…Travel has been part of my story since I was 2 …My parents took me abroad…to Toronto, Canada were we lived as a family for one year.

Aged 5 I started school on the NSW South Coast and drew pictures and wrote stories about growing up and moving back to a land where you could build snowman….I constantly looked at the holiday snaps from our time abroad…Me in a stroller being pushed around Paris, my desire to bear hugs all stray cats in rural France, sitting in open fields in the UK, picnicking with my parents….Yes, a love of travel was instilled in me at a young, very young age.

I left home at age 22 for the UK…no set plans…..to backpack, a  right of passage for so many young Aussies…Though my parents did not really want me to go…It was there fault…At age 2 they had introduced to the concept…Now I was going to fly the nest!!

I took with me a friend ( of the lifelong variety) and another joined us 6 months later….It was to be both the best and worst of experiences…All wrapped up into one…a period of my life which really shaped who I am today…A period of time were I could be whoever I wanted to be, whatever I wanted to be….and I collected like-minded people along the way….the patch work of quilt friendship grew and grew.

I want to make reference here to a person I collected in Geneva,Switzerland or was it Nice / Paris?…I really can’t remember…the effect of this whirl wind character truly knocked me off my feet. This person’s energy, sense of humour, ability to live life to the fullest ( and then some) was contagious….Where ever it was we met….it does not matter……I was hooked, in it for the long haul, through thick and thin and all that….I had meet a ‘kindred spirit’…and the rest as they say is history.

Lauren, the adventure was have shared…I do hope to recall some, if not all of them in CUWAM….but I am tired today….and don’t have to strength to start the tale and then have to defend my writing…for I am sure to receive comments such as-’ That can’t be true, a bar roof collapsing on the two of you beach side in Lagos?’, ‘ You did not sleep on concrete floors and receive sympathy gifts of sunglasses and boxer shorts?’  ‘ It could not be true that one of you was paralysed, hospitalised, visually impaired…presenting more heath problems than a House episode ?”

But they are true..all of them, and more…many, many more…The tales of Kate and Lauren, at home and abroad…Do I dare to tell them?? Yes I do!!

And I will…but not today…But for a bit of kick start…Look back at the 2001 slide show…images that really should never have been made public…Taken at a time when digital cameras were not even a ‘invented’..WOW!! A time when I was 20 kilos heavier…yes, I said it was the best and worst two years of my life..

But travel…solo or with the company of others…a sure fire way to kick-start any relationship.

To be continued…..

Catch Up with a Mate……

Today I am launching Catch Up With a Mate Month..

I had high hopes of launching a fantastic blog today, but alas, that has not happened….

Catch up with a Mate month is all about reconnecting with friends past and present that are important to you over any given time period. I have committed to the month of June, and hope to catch up with people I hold dear to me in a settling that complements our friendship, in a cafe, and art gallery, rain forest, a new city….

I will be documenting the momentous occasions that the catch ups bring during June on my blog, and am hoping to inspire others to jump on board and create their own catch up days, weekends, months etc…and for people to be inspired to detail the trials and tribulations that only true friendship can bring on this page…..

Let’s use this blog as a way of documenting the wonders of friendship….Is that even possible??

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